Rash guard
$30
White print. Left chest and full back. Made for the water. Several colors available — we will confirm color with you when you order.
In memory of Declan
We help families living with grief get into the ocean. Merch sales and gifts pay for surf sessions, gear, and safe instruction so cost is not what keeps a family off of the sand.
Healing Grief With Waves is a Florida nonprofit started by Declan’s family. The work is simple: get grieving families into the water for a morning, with boards, instruction, and people who understand loss.
When our family had a shocking stillbirth, we were rocked and had no clue how to recover. We tried everything and nothing was helping. We knew we had to find something to help us all heal, or we wouldn’t make it through.
Until one day we drove a few hours and tried to surf, and it completely changed our lives.
In the beginning we didn’t have to already be in the water for it to start working. On the drive we cried, we screamed, we talked and prayed. It brought us together, and healing began in small doses. Some days the only time we felt normal was in the water.
Until we found surfing we were crumbling. We wanted healing so badly and we couldn’t find it. We would have never thought surfing would be it. We were horse people in the country. My husband and I had randomly surfed as teens and thought of trying it. Guess what: surfing has been the only thing that brought us together.
It gave us motivation, unity, and got us back to life — or whatever life is after a baby dies.
But our kids. They smile. They laugh. They are motivated. They talk about their baby brother with joy instead of only sadness.
We connect as a family. And as a mom — I couldn’t see past the grief before. But in the water, I can’t explain it. It’s different. I can cry and no one sees. I can breathe and not feel guilt. I just watch them surf and everything is okay for a minute. A minute I need.
And besides all of that, total strangers have cheered on the beach for me and my kids catching waves. You have no idea what that does for a hurting soul. The surf community is a beautiful place.
Same logo. You pick the top line. Email us to order. We will confirm size, color, wording, and total, then send how to pay. There is no checkout on this site yet.
$30
White print. Left chest and full back. Made for the water. Several colors available — we will confirm color with you when you order.
$28
Cotton tee for wearing on land. Same print. Several colors available — we will confirm color when you order.
$22
Kids size. Same circle logo. Several colors available.
$6 / $8 named
Small circle for a bottle, board, or laptop. Add a loved one’s name for $8.
Top line options: a first name; Mom, Dad, Brother, Sister, Grandma, Grandpa; or a plain logo with only Healing grief with waves. If there is a bottom line, it stays Healing grief with waves.
Email healinggriefwithwaves@gmail.com to orderWhite print on the rash guard. Front left chest and a larger print on the back. Several colors available. Tell us which color you want when you text to order.
These are made for the water, not cotton t-shirts. A family run is being printed first at Sunrise Surf Shop. The next run will be sold to fund surf days.
If you want a rash guard, email us. We will confirm size, color, and price, then send how to pay.
Email healinggriefwithwaves@gmail.comMost people will not want Declan’s name. They will want their person, or a simple word like Mom or Dad.
Same circle. Same wave, ribbon, and cross. You choose the top line. Healing grief with waves stays on the bottom.
This is a preview of how the name sits in the circle. The printed piece has the surfboard, ribbon, and cross in the center. Email us with the name or word, size, color, and how many you want. We will reply with the total and how to pay.
Email healinggriefwithwaves@gmail.com to orderPrice depends on where the session is and how many people go out. Families do not pay that. We match them with a local instructor and cover the session.
If you are a family who wants a morning in the water, email us. You do not need to buy merch first.
A list of trusted help will live here. We are still choosing what belongs on it.
Check back. This section will grow as we find the right partners and links.
The first work is getting families in the water. More support will sit next to that as we grow.
Virtual sessions for a parent, a sibling, or a whole family. No bill to them. No intake maze. No explaining the loss to get in the door.
Other help will be added here when we can do it well. If you have something that belongs on this list, text us.
Rash guards, tees, and stickers. That profit goes toward family surf days.
Help cover a family morning. Cost varies by location and how many people are in the water. Email us.
Coaches and shops can donate a session, print, or gear. Email us.
Healing Grief With Waves, Inc. is a Florida nonprofit. Federal 501(c)(3) status is pending. Orders and gifts go through email for now. Do not treat payments as tax-deductible until we have the IRS letter.
Krista and CJ Schwab
The Okeechobee family
Email healinggriefwithwaves@gmail.com
Tell us if you want merch, want to cover a family day, want to donate a lesson, or if your family needs a morning in the water.